FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)
Q. WHAT IS AN IN YOUR DREAMS SESSION??
A. An In Your Dreams session is a 60- or 90-minute bodywork session that combines gentle and soothing touch with healing energy and a fine appreciation of and focus on male energy.
Q. IS IT ONLY FOR MEN?
A. Yes, at this time, I only offer In Your Dreams sessions to men.
Q. ARE YOU A CERTIFIED MASSAGE THERAPIST? HAVE YOU BEEN CERTIFIED BY ANY GROUPS LIKE BODY ELECTRIC?
A. Nope, on both counts. Which is why I'm very careful to make it clear that I do NOT provide a "massage" to guys. What I offer is a blend of many different modes of expression that I have encountered over the years, including some how I have designed along the way. (I repeat: In Your Dreams is not Body Electric, nor is it affiliated with Body Electric in any way.)
Q. WHY SHOULD I HAVE TO PAY YOU SO MUCH MONEY IF YOU'RE NOT EVEN A QUALIFIED MASSAGE THERAPIST?
A. You don't have to pay me at all if you don't want to and the way to avoid that is by not using my service. More than likely, you won't find anything quite like In Your Dreams from most certified therapists and the closest thing you'll get to an erotic experience like this is by hiring an escort. That's your choice; I'm not twisting your arm.
Q. I'M CONCERNED ABOUT COVID-19. WHAT PRECAUTIONS DO YOU TAKE TO ENSURE I DON'T GET INFECTED.
A. I got my first vaccination on January 9 of this year at Holiday Park; and I got my second vaccination on January 30 of this year at Snyder Park. In addition, I continue to practice social distancing and wear a mask when out in public or with people who have not yet been vaccinated. I will wear a mask during sessions if you like and you will have the option of removing yours to assist with your own personal relaxation.
Q. I'M NERVOUS. I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE.
A. Initial apprehension is normal, however there's nothing to be nervous about. The purpose of an In Your Dreams session is to relax you and make you feel wonderful.
Q. YOU SAY THAT WITH RARE EXCEPTIONS, YOU ONLY TAKE ONE CLIENT PER DAY. WHY IS THAT AND WILL YOU MAKE AN EXCEPTION FOR ME?
A. In Your Dreams sessions take a lot of energy -- both physical and psychic. I choose to offer only one per day because this is the best for my clients. I feel that to do more than one in a day might deprive the second client because my energy level wouldn't be as high. On rare occasions, I might be able to do a second session; this would be contingent upon there being at least four or five hours between the two sessions.
Q. I AM INTERESTED IN SOMETHING YOU DON'T LIST ON YOUR SITE.
A. All men have different tastes when it comes to a session and, depending upon their own health needs and requirements, might want to consider a customized session. If you don't see something you want, feel free to ask.
Q. HOW DO YOU CARRY YOUR MASSAGE TABLE WITH YOU?
A. I don't use a massage table. Out of the necessity for ease, I decided not to use a table. The session takes place on the floor or on a bed.
Q. AREN'T WE REALLY TALKING ABOUT SEX HERE?
A. No, I am definitely not charging for sex. The sessions are intended to provide relaxation combined with erotic sensations. Though they can become pretty sensual and might even feel sexual, a regular In Your Dreams session is merely suggestive of sexuality and is safe in every way. Fees are for the time we spend together and for the unique experiences and education that helps me give you the best session ever.
Q. AREN'T YOU WORRIED ABOUT AIDS? WHAT IS YOUR HIV STATUS?
A. AIDS and HIV is something we should all be concerned about. However, there is nothing about an In Your Dreams session that puts my clients or myself at risk. In addition to practicing responsible sex, I am also on PrEP. See here for more information about PrEP. As part of the PrEP protocol, I am tested for the HIV virus and all sexually treatable diseases (STDs) every three months. Of course nothing is 100% foolproof, so i also encourage you to establish your own boundaries for our session so that it is erotic, sensible, safe, and as sensual as you're comfortable being. I will always respect your boundaries.
Q. I'M ALLERGIC TO BODY OIL CAN YOU STILL GIVE ME AN IN YOUR DREAMS SESSION?
A. Actually, I use a lightly-scented massage cream for my sessions. If you prefer, the session can be done without any lotion.
Q. DO YOU OFTEN HAVE REPEAT CLIENTS?
A. Yes, about thirty percent of my clients repeat.
Q. HOW ABOUT IF I USE YOU REGULARLY - WILL YOU GIVE ME A DISCOUNT?
A. I generally do not offer special rates, discounts, or frequent flyer packages. My clients genuinely appreciate the unique work I do (see RAVES page); so much so, that many of them become repeat customers.
Q. SPEAKING OF RATES; WHAT ARE THEY?
A. Rates depend upon the type of session you desire -- regular bodywork, sacred intimacy, or longer, specialized sessions. Check my RATES AND SCHEDULE page. If you don't see what you desire, just write or message me and ask.
Q. WILL A 60-MINUTE SESSION BE LONG ENOUGH?
A. It depends. Regular clients who have experienced my sessions often opt to be together one and a half or two hours or longer. It's up to you; the longer we're together the more time we have to get to know one another and the better able I am to gauge the kind of work your body needs.
Q. WHAT'S THIS ABOUT CUDDLE SESSIONS?
A. A big result of COVID-19 has been social isolation and touch deprivation. Touch deprivation is linked to all sorts of issues: aggression, anxiety, depression, impulsiveness, poor job performance, stress, violent behavior, and more. In addition, many guys in the gay community have come to expect touch to imply sex; and that's not what everybody wants all the time. Sometimes you just want to talk, be held, or hold space for one another. Cuddling sessions provide for mutually beneficial touch that many of us never received in the past or currently do not experience in the present. Similar to meditation, mindfullness techqiques, or yoga, cuddling can be healing and transformative when it happens in a respectful and emotionally safe way. If you want closeness without the complications (or fear) that can arise for some during sensual and intimate bodywork sessions, try a cuddling session.
Q. WHAT TYPES OF PAYMENT DO YOU ACCEPT?
A. I prefer cash but can accept PayPal and Venmo.
Q. ARE YOU REALLY JUST A GLORIFIED ESCORT? THAT IS, DO YOU PROVIDE SERVICES OTHER THAN THOSE DESCRIBED ABOVE?
A. I am certainly willing to discuss other possible services; for instance, if a client wants time to get to know me better before or after a session -- say jioin him for dinner, go to a business function or show, or even enjoy a week-long cruise – I will gladly consider it. We can discuss that together and whether you want to include In Your Dreams sessions as part of the experience.
Q. YOU CLAIM TO BE PROVIDING A SPIRITUAL-BASED SERVICE. DON'T YOU THINK ALL THIS CHARGING IS RATHER TACKY?
A. Nope, I don't. My time is valuable. Extended time spent with one client is time that could be spent providing an In Your Dreams session with another. Besides, I have a limited amount of energy and time and it's only fair that we acknowledge that this energy can become depleted.
Q. I LIVE IN ANOTHER STATE. HOW FAR CAN I EXPECT YOU TO TRAVEL TO GIVE ME AN IN YOUR DREAMS SESSION?
A. I love to travel and do so whenever I can; I have booked sessions in Baltimore, Boston, Chicago, London, New York City, Florida (Fort Lauderdale, Ocala, Orlando, etc.), Philadelphia, San Francisco, and Washington, DC.
That said, I rarely travel specifically for a session; but if I'm in your neck of the woods, contact me and I'll see what I can do about providiing a session. This includes sessions on cruise ships. See here for my upcoming travel plans.
Q. I'M A PROFESSIONAL GUY. HOW DO I KNOW YOU WON'T TELL PEOPLE ABOUT OUR SESSIONS?
A. Discretion is my watchword. Several of my current clients are married, some are influential and public figures. Their private lives are their business; not mine. You can be assured of privacy when you deal with me. You can also be assured that I’ll act professionally and respect your boundaries and do my best to fulfill your desires.
Q. HOW OLD ARE YOUR CLIENTS? ARE THEY MOSTLY GAY?
A. I have had clients aged between 18 to 85 years of age. Though the sexual orientation of a client is irrelevant, they are about half gay and half straight or bisexual.
Q. DON'T YOU WORRY ABOUT GETTING REALLY OLD OR UGLY CLIENTS?
A. No. But I do sometimes worry that I’ll get questions from ignorant folks who think that age or looks are important criteria when providing affection and healing to someone.
Q. I'VE BEEN WITH BODY WORKERS WHO WERE MESSY DRUNK? HOW DO I KNOW THIS WON'T HAPPEN WITH YOU?
A. Plain and simple: I don't drink or use drugs while I work. Any high I get during an In Your Dreams session is from the anticipation and thrill of helping another person relax and feel good. I also don't smoke cigarettes. However, when I am at your residence, I have no problem with your drinking or smoking.
Q. I UNDERSTAND YOU NOW REQUIRE MY EMAIL ADDRESS AND PHONE NUMBER. WHY?
A. So I can contact you if a problem with our session arises. Also, I have various checks and balances which I use prior to meeting with a client to assure each other's safety. I’ll suggest we talk with one another over the phone so we both get a general idea what the other is like. Also, your phone number enables me to check to make sure you are who you say you are. This is not to breach your personal life; it's a way of protecting myself against harm or pranks.
Q. THIS ALL SOUNDS PRETTY GOOD. WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO CONTACT YOU?
A. Since I am kept very busy with doing bodywork, ADVANCE BOOKINGS are always the best. My phone number is listed on the banner above, but sending me an email at michael@ultimatewalker.com is far and away the best way to contact me.